Statue of Indra in a buddhist thai temple
A thoroughly good relationship with ourselves results in being still, which doesn’t mean we don’t run and jump and dance about. It means there’s no compulsiveness. We don’t overwork, overeat, oversmoke, overseduce. In short, we begin to stop causing harm.
Love, deep and true love is the opposite of attachment. In fact attachment in the Buddhist sense is the enemy of love. This kind of attachment means clinging, craving and obsession. This translates into love as jealousy and possessiveness. These things are the enemies of love and can often destroy it. Love is like holding a dove. She must be held gently lest she be crushed so we must hold love gently and be prepared when she flies.